Bad or Good news?
A piece of news comes to a close person to my heart about there health that saddens them. Am I surprised? Honestly no, sad? That the question I want to explore a little more. There is no feeling about it to me. Most people around this person is concerns. But for me, I am not concerned in the way that other people. When news arrives at your door, it is you who give meaning to it. Is it really bad or good news?
When the news was told to me my reaction or initial thought was I don’t want to pay too much attention to this. Yes, I acknowledge it, but I do not want to feed it more energy then it deserves.
We live in this world where the inner world manifest to our outer world. My text to this person was, I acknowledge it, but I do not want to talk about it or feed energy to this. All I want them to do is focus on their own happiness. What makes them happy.
It may seem cold but my reality it is not. As a human in this society, we are trained to focus on the problem and issue that does nothing to our well being. In our mind anything that we considered negative we see this circling in our mind, those words, those images playing over and over again. As we spiral down our emotion follow us down too. These thoughts are energy. Every thought we aid this negative idea will make it bigger in our mind. In turn, our world does not seem so incredible anymore.
The next day, I call this particular person. We had a long conversation. I see or hear resistance to the ideas of her happiness or finding something that will help her get out of this mindset. Its a comfort yet a hindrance. For someone who speaks about being open to positivity mindset, they are not open to it. I ask why you are so resistant to be happy or appreciative. Words are spoken, but not emotion is connected to it. Words that is supposed to empower you to give your emotion seem to be missing. Explaining the purpose of this exercise using ideas that were said to have positive feeling seem to have nothing — explaining my intention for these topics of conversation. But when someone does not want to hear or is open to hearing it was difficult. But the love for this person was strong. I start to listen to a little more, fighting back my resistance and grabbing to what was believes the issue on their perspective with that cause them to be where they are. We forget at the time that our world is directly linking with your mental state. It motivates us and drive us. It creates passion and destruction.
Independence was identified as their issue by this person. OK. Having dependence on their partner does not sit well with this person. Specifically financial dependence. It strange how within our mind we see the world so specifically and ignore other things in our life. It so narrow and it break us up.
So what can I say about this? Well, it clearly at this moment you are not working or in a position to generate income for independence that you need. But if independence is what you need to feel better, then there are many things at this moment that we can explore to give you that feeling. If independence is what you feel that cripple your situation then let us step back and explore it. Do you rely on others to walk, move, feed yourself? There are people out there who can do that for themselves, aren’t your super lucky you are independence enough to be able to support yourself in that way. Aren’t you blessed? How lucky are you to not rely on your partner to do all this for you, be a burden? How does that feel to you? I waited for a response.
You can cook, right? You don’t need someone to cook for you because you can cook for yourself and nourish your body. You are independence. There are many people out there who can not cook. Are you independent in that sense? The conversation continues with word of independence, and they have this. More example was spoken to allow them to see how special and lucky we all are, but we forget about it — those simple thing we take for granted that many don’t have or loss this privilege.
We look at life so narrow at times to make us feel bad. But there are times when we need to step back and see the other side or other aspects. Look for things that you have now that give you what you need. In this case, it is independence. We have all the aspect that we want, but we do not see it at times when we are too focused on the problem or issue. Sooth your self, neutralise those negative thoughts.
We spoke about this health news is as not a bad thing. To me, it is a good thing as the amazing body we have is letting us know that it is not ok with what happening with ourselves. It is fighting back to tell you to listen, wakeup and listen. Look after the one person that matter and that is you. Look after your spiritual self. Woww, how amazing is this body of ours. This is a blessing that our body gives us this health issue. It is giving your sign that you cannot ignore but listen to, or what you should be focusing on. It is guiding you. Woww, how super amazing is that.
We go through life ignoring what our heart tells us. What our body tells us. Every pain you hear or feel is telling you to stop hating yourself for the mistake or action. We can make changes now at this moment. When you quietly listen without resistance, you know what to do. Do it without judgement to yourself. We judge ourselves and create anger resentment toward our action and other action. When you let it go and let it flow nothing can hurt you. We hold on ideas so tight it cannot breathe but die in our hand. Breathe the idea and let it free, as what yours cannot be lost it like a loyal pet or dog always return home to you.
Before we said our bye I said ‘Don’t look for what you want outside it is inside.’ Your world is amazing if you want it to be. It starts with just one thought at a time.
There is more work that needs to be done to recover. It not only take physical action but also maintaining your inner world, your thoughts.
