Love starts with you and flows to…
There is something so powerful about a person who takes care of themselves, holds their own, who respectfully do not care about others negative opinion.
Life is full of people who are insecure about themselves and are motivated to do things to please others or feed their insecurity. Many of us look at those confident people with envy. I am no exception.
I believe in loving yourself, really take care of you because who the hell will do that for you. Your mother or father may do that when you are dependant on them. But there will be a time when that stream will waver. When you feed on others as your primary source, it is limited but when you feed on you, grow your self-love. It is endless and abundance that will overflow to those closes to you. When the source comes from within it feel different, the joy, inspiration is amazing. It like when you accomplish a goal on your own two hands. The sense of achievement is supreme.
Love is a powerful thing. It is indescribable when you have it growing within you, world and mountain can be move, nothing can top this feeling. Loving yourself is one of those things.
So what does loving yourself mean? Most of us even myself for many years does not know what love is or true love is. Most of us love selfishly. If you do this or satisfy this I will love you, you hit the spot with this and that I will love you. If you don’t hurt me by doing this that, I will love you. We all have our limits and criteria on when love cannot be given. It’s our right and our choice, no one can judge us or condemn us, as no one is exactly like us to judge or experience what we have to judge.
However, knowing what selfish love is – ‘a love with conditions’. This does not work with you, yourself. How can you divorce yourself? How can you break up with yourself? Even if you try, your still there with you. You can get rid everyone around you, but you can not get rid of the person inside you.
The Next question is what is true love and how can I love yourself. Woww this is a powerful question. True love to yourself, the only person you can give true love to, is loving without condition.
What does that mean? I ponder this question for a while.
To me, it means forgiving yourself for all the mistake you make even if it is terrible, awful and hurtful and knowing that you are learning and growing. Allow yourself to grow and learn. We are not fixed, we are like nature always growing and changing so why not allow yourself to do the same thing? Be our own best friend when we are sad, bring ourselves up when we feel down, pick yourself up, do things that will make you feel better. Encourage ourselves, be gentle to yourself, be understanding and be proud of what you have done. For every journey is different. The journey you have chosen has enriched you even if it is a tough journey. Be proud that you survive this long without a manual to living life or the secret to life. Reminds yourself that the only person that matter is you. And the only person that truly can love you is you.
I am not saying that we don’t see others around us and ignore the world, but when times are tough if ignoring the world keep you sane and happy, love yourself enough to do that. When others motivate actions it’s not true love, but when action is motivated by compassion and understanding that is true love. So be compassionate towards yourself. You will see that you are more compassionate towards others.
Taking care of yourself is important. You don’t need to be like a model, but your body is like your most favourite thing in this world. Have pride in it; look after it. It is all you got that will carry you through this life journey. Love it and take care of it.
I am imperfect is the most perfect way… I love my being, physically and spiritually. There is a strong bond with this body of mine, it brings me joy and experience, so I want to take care of it. How about you? Do you love you? And every part of you? Start finding love in you even if it just one small like like the perfect nail. Start somewhere and expand. Start by just looking.
